Monday, January 09, 2012
One Thing to be Sure of
My daughter turned 3 last month. It has been 3 years of roller-coaster ride; from worrying about the various illnesses that she had during her first year, agonizing over her heart defect, to the pure joy of hearing her laughter and seeing her proud face after she had mastered new things.
Watching her grow, I realized not to take anything for granted. Every “simple” movement and activities, from walking to talking, we learned it a while ago. Someone must have invested a lot of time and effort to teach us those things we are performing automatically now. Ideally, that someone is (are) your parents.
I am thankful to be here now, to be able to work and provide for my family, to be able to write this entry. That means someone, in this case my parents, never give up on me, even during my troubled times. Believe me, among their children, I am the one who gave them most head (and heart) aches. No matter how many bad grades I brought home, they still encouraged me to do my best, to aim for good school. I used to rebel, I thought that was solely for their own ambition. Now I realized, even if there were some traces of parental ambition, I should be thankful that they still believed in me enough to still push me to do my best.
Imagine if they just gave up and told me that it would be a waste of money to continue my education. I will be happy at that time. Economically, it would make sense for my parents. It would be money better spend elsewhere, right?
Most of us do not think that way though. We love our children so much to give up. In fact, several prominent child psychologists stated that the most important goal of parenthood is to never give up trying to help your child.
I like the word “trying”, for I will admit readily that I am pretty clueless on how to best educate my child. However, I sure will try my best. The result is secondary. What is primary is love. Here is my resolution: no matter how hard or frustrating it is sometimes, I will never give up helping my daughter. Anything that she needs I will try so hard to provide or help her to attain them! I want to assure her of one thing that she will always have: my love.
Is my resolution novel? Not really. I have the best role model: God our Father. Unlike me, he sure knows what he is doing. One thing is the same: even though sometimes the result of his caring is not what we expected, but we can always be sure of one thing: His love!
To him be the glory and honor forever!
Watching her grow, I realized not to take anything for granted. Every “simple” movement and activities, from walking to talking, we learned it a while ago. Someone must have invested a lot of time and effort to teach us those things we are performing automatically now. Ideally, that someone is (are) your parents.
I am thankful to be here now, to be able to work and provide for my family, to be able to write this entry. That means someone, in this case my parents, never give up on me, even during my troubled times. Believe me, among their children, I am the one who gave them most head (and heart) aches. No matter how many bad grades I brought home, they still encouraged me to do my best, to aim for good school. I used to rebel, I thought that was solely for their own ambition. Now I realized, even if there were some traces of parental ambition, I should be thankful that they still believed in me enough to still push me to do my best.
Imagine if they just gave up and told me that it would be a waste of money to continue my education. I will be happy at that time. Economically, it would make sense for my parents. It would be money better spend elsewhere, right?
Most of us do not think that way though. We love our children so much to give up. In fact, several prominent child psychologists stated that the most important goal of parenthood is to never give up trying to help your child.
I like the word “trying”, for I will admit readily that I am pretty clueless on how to best educate my child. However, I sure will try my best. The result is secondary. What is primary is love. Here is my resolution: no matter how hard or frustrating it is sometimes, I will never give up helping my daughter. Anything that she needs I will try so hard to provide or help her to attain them! I want to assure her of one thing that she will always have: my love.
Is my resolution novel? Not really. I have the best role model: God our Father. Unlike me, he sure knows what he is doing. One thing is the same: even though sometimes the result of his caring is not what we expected, but we can always be sure of one thing: His love!
To him be the glory and honor forever!
# posted by indra : 10:47 PM
