Saturday, May 10, 2008
Entitlement
Being an expecting father, I am starting to make preparations. One of them is how we will raise our Bernie (yes, we have a name already).
Because the cost of labor in Indonesia is very cheap, many families have multiple servants and babysitters. I won't argue against having them. In fact, we do have our own guard/house cleaners, even though he does not cook nor clean our private rooms. We like our privacy! We are considering however, whether to have a part-time nanny after Bernie have been born because both of us will still be working.
One thing for sure, I don't want Bernie to grow up spoiled and relying on the nanny or any servants to help him/her do stuff. It is not just the matter of teaching the child to be independent. I want to teach my child to be responsible from the very beginning. If you make a mess, then you have to clean it yourself. If you are the one going to school, you have to learn how to prepare your uniform, books, et cetera.
I have seen many children from families who have servants and nannies, and most of them have the sense of "entitlement". They wake up and called for their nannies/servants to prepare their school uniforms, clean up their rooms, and so forth. I don't like this trend at all. It teach them to be irresponsible. I make a mess and someone else will clean it up for me, because I am entitled to get help!
No Sir, thank you, no child of mine will grow up that way.
Because the cost of labor in Indonesia is very cheap, many families have multiple servants and babysitters. I won't argue against having them. In fact, we do have our own guard/house cleaners, even though he does not cook nor clean our private rooms. We like our privacy! We are considering however, whether to have a part-time nanny after Bernie have been born because both of us will still be working.
One thing for sure, I don't want Bernie to grow up spoiled and relying on the nanny or any servants to help him/her do stuff. It is not just the matter of teaching the child to be independent. I want to teach my child to be responsible from the very beginning. If you make a mess, then you have to clean it yourself. If you are the one going to school, you have to learn how to prepare your uniform, books, et cetera.
I have seen many children from families who have servants and nannies, and most of them have the sense of "entitlement". They wake up and called for their nannies/servants to prepare their school uniforms, clean up their rooms, and so forth. I don't like this trend at all. It teach them to be irresponsible. I make a mess and someone else will clean it up for me, because I am entitled to get help!
No Sir, thank you, no child of mine will grow up that way.
# posted by indra : 3:14 AM
